(This post is #11 in a series of 20 Questions to Self that I recently posted on this blog.)
I’d like to encourage you to ask and answer these questions, too. The insights you discover will inspire you.
Q: What is the one bottleneck in your world, that if it were removed, would have the single biggest impact for you?
A: Allowing my concern for the opinions of others to affect my decision-making when it comes to living from my truth.
How many times have you really wanted to do something, but you held back because of what others might think? (Or am I the only one who does that?)
The other day I was reflecting on my senior year in high school. Hard to believe that was nearly 30 years ago. Turns out that I wasn’t really a very nice person back then. For the most part, all I cared about was myself. And not in a healthy, confident way, but in an egotistical, judgmental, I-think-my-shit-doesn’t-stink kind of way.
Oh, how I wish I could go back in time and knock some sense into myself!
But the weird thing is, there were actually some benefits to my approach.
Since I didn’t really care what others thought of me, I was willing to do and say just about anything. If I had an opinion, I voiced it. If I had a dream, I shared it. If I didn’t like you, I said so. And if I knew I was right, I took a stand for my convictions.
I often shelved my opinions in the spirit of “keeping the peace”. I frequently sought out the course of least resistance, so as to not make waves. In truth, I had misplaced my mojo.
Thankfully, I started on the path to getting it back the day I heard a quote from one of my mentors who said, “What other people think of you is none of your business”.
That’s so true, isn’t it? We’re never going to accomplish much in this world if we are constantly concerned about what other people think of us. (It’s hard enough to think for yourself!)
Today, I make a new commitment to myself. Today marks the last day that I make decisions from the place of fearing what others may think of me.
I’d like to encourage you to make a similar commitment for yourself.
There may be times that you don’t want to hear what I have to say. There may be times where you disagree with my position. And there may even be times when you wanna punch me in the face.
And maybe, just maybe, you’ll discover that what I have to say is exactly what you needed to hear. (That’s what I aspire to.)
ABOUT J. SHOOP – I’m J. Shoop, Author, Speaker, and Personal Coach. I simplify achievement for entrepreneurs by aligning their outer results with their inner wisdom. Let’s connect on Twitter: @jshoop or visit www.wisdomandresults.com.